By Annabel Oyera
Eleanor Roosevelt, a renowned writer, once stated, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” I want to share with you my struggle and triumphant journey from poor self-esteem and doubt in my talents to a point of self-acceptance and confidence. There was a period in my life when my lack of confidence overpowered all of my efforts, and I would view myself in the mirror as someone incapable of accomplishing anything significant.
This belief sprang from a deep-seated worry that I wasn’t good enough, not from reality. This negative self-image seemed to be reinforced by every obstacle and criticism. I let those ideas control my behavior, not taking chances or pursuing my goals because I was afraid I wouldn’t succeed.
It was exhausting to live with poor self-esteem; it was like having a weight that I couldn’t see that prevented me from living life to the fullest. I didn’t miss out on opportunities because I wasn’t capable; rather, it was because I was immobilized by my fear of failing and believed I couldn’t succeed. Ironically, by not attempting at all, I was failing myself in an attempt to spare myself the agony of failure.
My journey of self-belief began during my internship where I was given many opportunities to write articles and editorial opinions. Seeing my work published in newspapers was truly validating. I could see that my words finally had a place and a purpose. The positive feedback I received from readers and colleagues also boosted my confidence immensely.
Moreover, the internship experience provided me with chances to conduct interviews. Initially, I was nervous, doubting my ability to engage effectively with people. However, as I conducted more interviews, my confidence grew.
I began to believe in my capacity to communicate and to connect with others meaningfully. Michelle Obama was once quoted saying, “Your success will be determined by your own confidence and fortitude” this came true when each article and interview affirmed my abilities and I began to see myself as capable and contributive which helped me overcome insecurities and reinforced my self-worth.
Self-compassion was key in my journey. I learned to forgive myself, treat myself with empathy, recognize my strengths, and appreciate my unique qualities. It wasn’t about arrogance, but finding a healthy balance in my capabilities.
If you find yourself in a similar place of self-doubt, I urge you to take that first step towards self-compassion. Surround yourself with positivity, seek support when needed, and remember that you are capable of more than you realize.
The journey may be long, but it is incredibly rewarding. A famous author Christopher Robin Said “Always remember that you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think”. Self-worth is inherent, believe in your abilities, embrace your imperfections, and know you can achieve greatness. Your journey can lead to unimaginable places. All it takes is the courage to believe in yourself.
The writer is a student of UCU offering BJMC and she did her Journalism and communication internship at the Ministry of Health under the Communication department .
